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Recognise the good in your spouse

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لاَ يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ

A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another.

Sahih Muslim 1468b · Source checked

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Sahih Muslim 1468b

Book 17, Hadith 81

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What It Means: Reading in Context

This reported saying appears in the collection’s chapter of advice concerning women. It encourages recognising good qualities alongside a disliked characteristic. The Arabic narration also records an alternative final word with the same sense. This reminder should not be used to excuse abuse or pressure someone to remain unsafe. This entry comes from Sahih Muslim 1468b. The quoted wording is the English translation of the reported saying. Follow the source link to read the narrator, full wording and in-book reference together. A hadith number identifies the source used here; numbering systems can differ between editions. Being able to inspect a source is important when a short statement is shared outside its original setting. The accompanying reflection is an editorial prompt for everyday conduct. It is not part of the hadith and does not replace explanation from qualified scholarship. Avoid extending a short reminder into a religious ruling that the entry itself does not establish.

REFLECTION · EDITORIAL

Name a quality you appreciate in your spouse and express it sincerely. Discuss ordinary disagreements respectfully while taking harmful behaviour seriously.

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إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ

verily Allah is kind and He loves kindness

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